semenjak awal bulan ini, gw udah tau artikel apa yang gw mau masukin ke dalam tulisan kali ini.. gw menemukan artikel yang sangat keren banget menurut gw.. simple.. namun ngena.. artikel ini gw ambil dari the good men project.. ini adalah salah satu website yang ngasih berita-berita atau pemikiran soal good men.. mostly tentang keluarga dan relationship, tapi dari sudut pandang cowok dan atau ayah dan atau suami.. jadi kalo mau tau cowok kaya apa.. baca aja ini *eh engga juga sih..
artikel kali ini menggunakan sudut pandang seorang ayah kepada seorang anaknya yang masih muda, katakanlah anak itu masih teenager.. sang ayah menggambarkan ketakutan anaknya untuk mengajak seseorang untuk jalan.. dan sang ayah menulis surat untuk anaknya yang bisa kita baca sekarang.. surat dari sang ayah ini sungguh luar biasa.. bagaimana menceritakan background awal ketika masa anaknya itu masih kecil.. hingga memberi contoh beberapa orang dengan kisah yang serupa..
sang ayah menggambarkan ketakutan si anak dengan istilah dengan nama rejection.. no one wants to get rejected.. tapi sang ayah memberi sudut yang berbeda soal rejection.. bagaimana konsep dan ketakutan rejection itu mempengaruhi orang, terutama orang dewasa.. dan sang ayah memberikan beberapa tips bagaimana mengajukan pertanyaan dengan tingkat rejection yang kecil, though rejection is not a failure.. at least you try..
artikel ini secara umum bisa diterapkan ke dalam kehidupan kita dalam bersosialisasi tanpa takut akan kemungkinan penolanakan yang terjadi dalam kehidupan sosial kita.. dan yang jelas, artikel ini memberikan satu pencerahan yang luar biasa buat gw..
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My dear Son,
We chatted the other day about inviting your new high school friends over to hang out. You told me that you were worried that no one will want to come.
When you were younger, every park I brought you to, you made a friend. 100% of the time. The first thing you did when you got to the park is find the nearest kid and ask, “Do you want to play with me?”
I guess when we get older, we get stupid.
I need to tell you a secret, something I wish I would have known when I was 12.
Rejection is a trick that our mind plays on you. It is not real.
Rejection is a trick your mind plays on you. Don’t be afraid. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by asking.
You think rejection might happen when you ask someone for something, so your mind stops you from asking. Before you asked, you never had it. If they say no, nothing has changed. You’re still in the same situation if you didn’t ask. So nothing actually happens – it’s only in your head.
If you want it, ASK away! Because you never know. If the answer is “No” in your mind say, “Next!” and smile. Because the next time might be a “Yes.” I promise you there will be a “Yes” if you keep asking.
Do you remember the game we play by the lake, where we throw rocks at a small target in the water? The person who throws the most rocks will likely hit the target first. It’s a numbers game. Getting that “Yes” is a numbers game too.
So go ahead, ask your new friends over. Ask your teacher for an extension. Ask us for that longboard. (I didn’t say “No,” I said you have to earn it.) Ask her out on a date. Ask if they want to buy it. Ask for a discount.
Don’t be afraid. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by asking.
And hey, you can increase your chances of a yes by doing the following:
1. Ask with the expectation of getting a yes. Never ask like, “Hi I guess you don’t want to come over this weekend huh?” or “I don’t suppose I can get a discount”.
You have to be positive to get a positive response.
But be polite and not cocky about it.
2. Ask the right person. The right person is the one that can make the decision. If you are asking for a discount, ask the manager. If you are asking a girl out, don’t ask her friends.
3. Be specific. Don’t ask, “Would you like to hang out sometime?”
Ask, “Would you like to go for a movie on Saturday night.”
4. Be resilient. Ask and ask again because the situation changes. The day changes. The person’s opinion changes. You change.
Some rejections that might interest you:
Joanne Rowling’s book was rejected by 12 publishers before it became successful. The book was Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone. J.K. Rowling is now worth about one billion dollars.
In 1998 Sergey Brin and Larry Page approached Yahoo! to merge with their company, Google.
Yahoo! said “No” to their little school project. Have you even heard of Yahoo?
In 1985 Steve Jobs was fired from his own company, Apple. That’s a huge “rejection.” What a loser right? Imagine if he stopped asking.
My son, there is no rejection. It’s a myth.
Love,
Dada
source: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/my-dear-son-rejection-is-a-myth-dg/
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